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A Case for Eloping in Cape Town

In the midst of my work, I sometimes wonder, how on earth am I being paid to do this? This “work” is that good – that spectacular. I get to stand barefoot on far-flung beaches as the sun dips below the Atlantic listening to couples exchange vows! I get to traipse around the side of a mountain among proteas looking for the perfect ceremony spot. It still astonishes me. I feel a deep sense of grateful whenever I marry couples – be it a small no frills legal signing or at a lavish wedding. But I feel that gratitude most when I’m part of elopements.

Elopements allow couples to focus on what really matters: The two of them. Without all the fanfare, it’s easier for couples to be present. It has the same effect on me as the celebrant. I’m less rushed; less distracted – fully there with you in the moment.

Tip for eloping in Cape Town: Time your ceremony and photography so that you and your person soak in golden hour in one of the most beautiful places in the world

Wild or gorilla elopements take place in the great outdoors – just you, your person and the wilderness (and, if you’ll have us, a celebrant and photographer)

What kind of ceremony would we have if it’s just the two of us?

One of the great joys of eloping? You get to decide how to celebrate and how to mark the occasion. This is true of the ceremony, too. Should you say personal vows? That’s entirely up to you (although my personal opinion is that it is so exquisitely beautiful when you do).

As with all ceremonies, I provide a lot of guidance when it comes to creating your elopement ceremony. Most couples have a clear idea of what they don’t want rather than what they do. That’s okay – that’s why you’re talking to me. My take: The ceremony is as special (if not more so) when it is just the two of you. The advantage of not having an audience is that there’s way less pressure to perform. You get to look inward and decide what you want as a couple.

There are beautiful elements of ‘traditional’ ceremonies that lend structure to more unconventional ceremonies. That said, I’m also very comfortable breaking out of the mould incorporating other rituals into the ceremony. The best ceremonies strike a balance between the gravitas that such a momentous day calls for, and leaving room for lightness and fun.

Your ceremony should reflect your love story and the two of you as individuals and how your unique qualities match one another

The most important part of eloping: Breathe. Be present with your love. Soak in the moment so that you can return to it in the years to come.

Don’t forget to have FUN! Yes, this is a huge moment in your lives. Yes that significance should be honoured. But there should always be room for spontaneity and connection

Choosing a location when Eloping in Cape Town

Cape Town spoils couples, offering plenty of incredible locations for elopement ceremonies. A lot of couples really want to start their marriage off with an adventure in the great outdoors. I call these “wild elopements” or a “gorilla elopements”. They are not interested in a lot of bells and whistles. They want an extraordinary backdrop and an personal and intimate ceremony – that’s about it. Spots like Signal Hill (not the viewpoint but a location a bit before it); Clifton 4th; Scarborough; Chapmans Peak; Clarence Drive are ideal for this kind of celebration. Dress up, bring a bottle of champagne and follow the Google Maps pin to our chosen viewpoint. Cue the magic!

Accommodation doubling up as a ceremony spot

Other couples want the security of a venue (especially if the weather turns and they need a plan B). Because elopements are, by definition, small celebrations, airbnbs work really well for elopements. This way couples secure accommodation and a location that could serve as aceremony spot too. If you’d like some inspiration – have a look here and here .I must warn you though, after looking through some of the options available, your hearts will be set and there will be no turning back.

Find exquisite and little-known spots in and around Cape Town to celebrate the beginning of your marriage in style

What about a photographer, florist and make-up artist?

You opted for an elopement to dodge decision fatigue and focus on what the day is truly about: each other. But you still have to make some key decisions for your elopement like who’s going to capture the moment. If you’re not from Cape Town (and even if you are) choosing out of the plethora of service providers on offer can be daunting. Worry not. Since I’ve been a marriage officer for a number of years now and my favourite kind of weddings are elopements, I can recommend a photographer, florist and make-up artist to you that I trust. I even have a travel company that I can recommend if you’re looking to extend your stay in Cape Town and South Africa by going on a honeymoon straight after your nuptials. I mean why the hell not?!

Let me know what you’re looking for and we can go from there.

What legal requirements do we have to fulfill to make our dream of Eloping in Cape Town a reality?

If you’re both South African, everything is very straightforward and I’ll run through the requirements in a minute when I chat to you. If one of you is a South African citizen and the other a foreign citizen without permanent residence (and an SA ID as a result of your PR status), read this blog. If you’re both foreign nationals and neither of you have permanent residency in South Africa, you’ll find the requirements here.

I will handle all the legal sides of your marriage so that you can simple sign, place your left thumbs on the paper and go revel in the fact that you JUST GOT MARRIED

What you need to know as two foreigners getting married in Cape Town

If you’re reading this blog, you’re likely planning on getting married in Cape Town – yes please! I probably don’t need to convince you about the city’s beauty — you’ve already chosen it as the place for your elopement or wedding …

But it’s fun (as a Capetonian) to revel in just how incredible this city and country truly are. So, here goes. Did I mention our exquisite beaches? What about our extraordinary Cape Floral Kingdom? Or the Big Five just a short drive away. And then there’s the warmth of the people you’ll meet here. Add to that the fine dining scene, award-winning wine estates, whale watching, surfing in Muizenberg, hiking up Lion’s Head, and the breathtaking views from every corner of the city — and it’s no wonder couples from all over the world choose to get married in Cape Town.

Because of how much the tip of Africa has to offer, many foreigners getting married in Cape Town double-up – planning a wedding or elopement here and chasing it up with a honeymoon. And why the hell not?! If this is something you’re considering, you may want to have a look at a few tours on offer. Secret Cape Town also provides a wealth of information on what to do when in the city.

Whether you’re planning something grand or simple, the process is surprisingly simple for two foreigners getting married in Cape Town. You do, however, need an experienced marriage officer guiding you through the steps.

Elopements allow you to focus on what’s really important – your love; your intention to do life together.

How to Get Married in Cape Town as Two Foreigners

Fortunately, it’s actually quite easy to marry two foreigners in South Africa. I mention Cape Town specifically because that’s where I’m based, but the legal requirements are the same across the country. Note: If one of you is a foreigner and the other a South African citizen, you need to fulfill different requirements. Read through this blog for more information.

Let me start with a question I get asked by foreigners fairly frequently. How long do we need to be in the country in order to get married? My answer: An afternoon. Although I wouldn’t recommend that because as we already discussed (in some length), Cape Town has SO many sights and experiences to delve into – coming in and out of the city would be a pity. I think I get asked this question frequently because there’s a lot of misinformation online about the duration you have to be in the country for and also having to notify certain parties of your intention to get married. Neither is true.

There are so many little-known spots in Cape Town that serve as perfect locations for wild elopements

Let’s start with the Letter of Non-Impediment

When a foreigner gets married in South Africa, they need a Letter of Non-Impediment. This is a document from your government confirming that you are legally free to marry. It might be issued by your embassy, consulate, or your country’s equivalent of Home Affairs.

The details vary from country to country:

Germany: Issues a classic Letter of Non-Impediment. If you’re both German citizens, you’ll receive just one letter, which lists both partners. The document is in German, but contains an English translation within it.

United Kingdom: Does not issue a Letter of Non-Impediment. Instead, UK citizens can sign an affidavit confirming there’s no legal barrier to their marriage. In South Africa, affidavits can be done for free at a police station — simply bring a pen, fill in the form, and write a short declaration.

United States: Also uses an affidavit, which can be done at the US Consulate in Cape Town.

Because I’ve married couples from many countries, I can often tell you exactly what your country issues and provide you with some guidance in this regard. Importantly, your letter of non-impediment is only valid for 6 months from the date of issue so you don’t want to apply for it too early (I know, I know you’re excited!). You also don’t want to leave it too late as some countries have quite a rigmarole that you have to go through in order to obtain it. No one wants that stress in the lead up to their destination wedding!

The wonderful thing about an elopement is you get to do things on your own terms – no rushing, no obligations – just the two of you; being the two of you

Document Checklist Foreigners Get Married in Cape Town

Once the Letter of Non-Impediment (or affidavit) is sorted, everything else is straightforward:

Passports: Copies of each, linked to the issuing country of your non-impediment letter or affidavit.

Entry Stamps: Sent to me via WhatsApp after arrival.

Divorce Decrees: If either of you has been married before.

Translations: Any non-English documents must be translated by a certified translator (unless the translation is already included, as with the German example).

A letter from your notary confirming you have signed an ante-nuptial contract (if you have opted to do so – some info below).

There are secret gems scattered along the coast that make for breathtaking backdrops for your elopement

Ante-nuptial Contract (Prenup)

In South Africa, couples can sign an ante-nuptial contract (often called a “pre-nup”), which decides how assets and liabilities are handled in the marriage. The default here is “in community of property” — meaning all assets and debts are shared. This can be risky, especially if one of you owns a business.

Many South Africans choose to sign an ante-nuptial contract to set their own rules. It must be done before the marriage, through a notary. If you decide to do this, your notary will give me a letter confirming the contract is signed — I don’t need to see the contract itself. Post-nuptial contracts are possible but costly and complicated, so I strongly recommend doing it beforehand if you want one.

Many foreign couples do not consider it necessary to sign an ante-nuptial as the laws in their countries govern how assets/liabilities will be divided in the event of separation and so there are safeguards built in – in other words, the default positions in other countries are often protective and fair, rather than old-fashioned and limiting (as is the case in South Africa). Still, if you’re unsure whether you need such a contract or not, I advise consulting with an expert so that you make an informed decision.

If you do decide to sign such a contract – I don’t need to see the actual contract but, rather, confirmation (in the form of a letter from your notary) that such a contract was entered into.

You should feel like your most authentic self on the day you get married

Registering Your Marriage in Your Home Country

If you live outside South Africa, you’ll probably want to register your marriage at home. Most countries require an unabridged marriage certificate, and many (especially in Europe) also require an apostille stamp for extra authentication.

UK & USA: Usually only need the unabridged certificate.

Most European countries: Require both the unabridged certificate and an apostille.

The apostille stamp is valid for six months, so plan your registration accordingly.

I offer a service of applying, collecting and couriering your unabridged marriage certificates to you. Another question I get asked often: Do we need to be in the country to apply for or collect our certificates? No. You can get married and hop straight onto the next flight out. (Don’t – go see the Garden Route; take a cobra on a drive along one of the most spectacular roads in the world; explore the Cape Winelands.)

Elopements allow you to focus on what’s really important – your love; your intention to do life together.

Types of Weddings in Cape Town for Foreign Couples

Foreign couples come with all kinds of visions for their day. Here are the three most common:

1. The Classic Wedding

Big celebrations at wine estates, boutique hotels, or luxury venues with your nearest and dearest flying in. Here’s a look at some well-known Cape Town venues. Whatever venue you decide on, I will be there to handle the ceremony and legalities while your wedding planner coordinates the rest.

2. The Elopement

Just the two of you, or a few close friends and family, in a stunning outdoor location — beach, mountain, or nature reserve. We create a ceremony that’s personal to you and your story. The magic of an elopement is that you get to focus on each other and the commitment you’re making. And you get to have fun! Pop a bottle of bubbly, drink straight from the bottle. Don’t rush – there’s plenty of time without any of the obligation to say hi to Aunt Jude who you haven’t seen since you were 7. Exchange personal vows (or don’t).

Remember that it’s your day and your elopement and you get to decide how it unfolds (and also where it unfolds).

How’s this for a magic spot to exchange vows with the love of your life?

3. The Legal Signing with a Special Touch

For couples focused mainly on the paperwork but wanting a beautiful setting, I offer simple ceremonies at my home (close to the CBD) in Vredehoek. It’s intimate and efficient but still feels special.

Since South Africa legalised same-sex marriage in 2006 (one of the first countries in the world to do so), Cape Town has become a natural choice for LGBTQIA+ couples wanted to celebrate the beginning of their marriage

Deciding Where to Get Married

Cape Town offers an endless choice of locations for your wedding day:

By the sea: Quiet beaches at sunset for barefoot vows.

In the mountains: Sweeping views of Table Mountain, Lion’s Head and the 12 Apostles.

In nature: Botanical gardens or wild reserves.

Some couples double up their accommodation and ceremony venue, booking an Airbnb or guesthouse with beautiful views with the aim of holding the ceremony there. This not only gives you a stunning backdrop but also a built-in backup in case of bad weather.

Fancy having the 12 Apostles in the background as you say your “I do”s? Wonderful – let’s make it happen.

Final Thoughts on Getting Married in Cape Town

Whether you’re planning a big do at an exquisite venue, an adventurous mountain elopement, or a simple signing with ocean views, getting married in Cape Town can be as straightforward or as lavish as you want it to be.

With the right preparation — and someone to guide you through the process — you can focus on what matters most: celebrating your love in one of the most beautiful cities in the world.

On a personal note, I believe that a ceremony sets the tone of the whole wedding celebration. It’s important to connect with your celebrant as they usher you into one of the most meaningful decisions of your life. The right fit is important, even if you plan only to do paperwork. To get a sense of who I am and what I value, you can find out a little here. And then if you do think I’m the right person, contact me on marriageofficerlara@gmail.com

Scarborough, near Cape Point, has become an increasingly popular spot for couples to elope

Eloping in Cape Town: What you need to know